My son once wanted his dad to do something for him, but rather than approaching him directly, he requested that I inform Dad on his behalf. 

I’m not sure why he had to go through me because there is no veil covering the holiest of holies in my family government. So I asked, “Why aren’t you approaching him directly?” Why should I be the one to approach Dad on your behalf? Go speak with him about it. It’s funny how the issue appears to be too minor to necessitate the use of external force. 

His response was amazing. My very dramatic son made me laugh so hard. 

Please, Mom, because Dad will not respond unless you approve. How did you get to that conclusion? 

Mom, we all live in this house, and he’d still tell you about it. If you two talk about it and don’t agree on it, it’s as good as dead on arrival. Invariably, he’s luring me over to his side before Dad arrives. 

Despite the fact that I burst out laughing, it made me ponder. How does he come to the conclusion that we are a team and would speak with one voice? 

The truth is that your children are observing and are aware of your family dynamics. They will pit you against each other if you do not present a united front. You know what I mean: a family divided against itself cannot survive. 

You and your partner must always be on the same page.