When the aim is unknown, abuse is unavoidable. There will be no demonstrable progress if there are no set targets. We can’t measure it, thus it’s unclear. Effective discipline has two main objectives. The first is  external and immediate, which aims to get our children to collaborate and behave appropriately in a crisis. 

 For many people, winning quick collaboration is the only goal. They want their children to either quit doing something they shouldn’t or start doing something they should. 

 That’s why we frequently hear parents say things like “Stop it now!” and “Because I said so!” But, truly, don’t we desire more than just cooperation? Of course, we do. 

The second, which is internal and long-term lessons, is concerned with internal teachings and moral compass, as well as practice and principle. 

 This internal, second key purpose of discipline is to help children acquire self-control and a moral compass so that they are mindful and conscientious even when authority figures are not there. It’s about assisting kids in maturing into nice and responsible adults who can have fulfilling relationships and meaningful lives. 

If we put our minds to it, we can achieve both immediate and long-term internal lessons with our discipline.